Another way that we can help our children is keeping in mind one specific principle, in two different situations. The principle is that which states, “A child is generally going to do as you do, and not as you say”. This is important. It is something that each and every one of us needs to know with certainty that this is what is going to happen. If you do not believe me, look at the majority of us. Are we what our parents had in mind when they were telling us what was acceptable and what was not? Did we end up following their spoken rules, or did we lean more toward following their example?
The first thing that we need to look at this principle is when we are thinking about getting married and starting a family with someone of the opposite sex. We must realize that when we marry someone that we are going to have children with, this is the same person that our children will learn what is normal and what is not from. This, as a parent is going to be a role model for your child. We need to make sure that these characteristics are in our potential spouse, that we are hoping to see in our children when they become grown.
The second time that is important that we take this principle into consideration, is when we are bringing someone into our already made family environment. When I say this, I mean that one person has a child or children, and would like to marry someone and make them a part of the family. We need to understand that this person, also will be the one that will have a big influence on our children. They will affect their morals, mannerisms, attitudes and outlooks on life and relationships. With all of that having been stated, we should all see the importance of keeping this principle on our minds, when talking about picking a good spouse or role model for our children.
Or do you disagree?