There’s nothing wrong with the previous mentioned topics, when coupled with Religion. I am not suggesting that one needs to act as though these other things do not exist. They are very important aspects of a person’s relationship with their spouse that cause one to have that feeling of real compatibility while with them. These previous mentioned characteristics or descriptions are definitely some of the things that are sought out for when looking for a potential spouse. We just need to remember that we should never allow one of these things to be the determining factor, as to who we decide to marry.
Rather, we need to be most concerned with the Religion of the one we are looking into, in terms of a potential spouse. When I say religion, I don’t mean that the person simply needs to be Muslim. What is meant here, is more along the lines of the person’s practice and real love for the religion. We need to look at what we see from this individual, instead of what we hear from them. We should be looking for spiritual side, and the part that allows us to know that this individual has an actual relationship with Allah. Anyone can make claims as to their love for Allah and Islam, but in actuality it is something that you should witness, more than you hear.
We can not completely forget about the advice given in the hadeeth which was reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said:
“A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust.”