The Most Important Relationship

عَنْ تَمِيمٍ الدَّارِىِّ أَنَّ النَّبِىَّ -صلى الله عليه وسلم- قَالَ

« الدِّينُ النَّصِيحَةُ » قُلْنَا لِمَنْ قَالَ « لِلَّهِ وَلِكِتَابِهِ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلأَئِمَّةِ الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَعَامَّتِهِمْ ».

متفق عليه – اللفظ لمسلم

On the authority of Tameem ad Daaree, That the Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“The deen (religion) is naseehah (advice, sincerity).” We said, “To whom?” He (ﷺ) said, “To Allah, His Book, His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.”

[Agreed upon – the statement of Muslim.]

As we are obliged to offer guidance and support to one another, I feel compelled to share some advice with our fellow brothers and sisters who are seeking to get married, especially when it comes to social media platforms. It is essential that we carefully assess how things are being approached and compare them with the correct way of doing things. Embracing the correct path will undoubtedly yield benefits for us, both in this life and in the hereafter.

Here’s the advice:

In today’s world, marriage is a topic of constant discussion, particularly on social media networks. People express their desires for specific qualities in a potential spouse, such as physical attributes, financial stability, or a desired location. However, what concerns us most is the overwhelming focus on finding a relationship with someone else, while neglecting to cultivate a proper relationship with Allah (The Creator of the heavens and the earth).

When seeking happiness and positive changes in life, it is crucial to prioritize the most important aspects and work our way down from there. Starting at the bottom and gradually making corrections may lead us to overlook fundamental factors that should have been addressed from the beginning. Ultimately, this approach might lead us to realize that what we thought we wanted was not genuinely what we needed.

Thus, it is paramount to begin by nurturing our relationship with Allah before entering into any other relationships. Neglecting this fundamental connection, which influences all others, could have adverse consequences. To understand the significance of this, we must understand that our existence revolves around Allah and His will, then we can make better choices in life, including selecting a suitable life partner.

True love, as Muslims, should be rooted in loving for the sake of Allah. We should cherish what Allah loves and detest that which displeases Him. This kind of love stems from genuine faith and can only be developed by establishing a real relationship with Allah.

In various online discussions and offline conversations, individuals often focus on finding the “perfect” spouse based on external attributes, material possessions, and social status. However, it is essential to remember that marriage should primarily serve as a means to draw closer to Allah and follow His guidance.

Sometimes, one spouse may start a journey towards greater religious commitment while the other remains unchanged. This divergence in spiritual growth can lead to marital conflicts and distance between partners. To avoid such situations, it is crucial to build relationships on the foundation of love for Allah and adherence to His teachings. Ensuring that both partners share common goals of pleasing Allah and seeking His rewards will strengthen their bond and promote lasting happiness.

In conclusion, seeking a spouse and building a successful marriage must be based on a profound love for Allah and a commitment to living according to His guidance. Embracing this approach will lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships, guided by shared values and a desire to please Allah above all else.